LGBT Duties

LGBT is, of course, denied the basic rights that even the animals enjoy. It is good they have raised their voice against the Victorian hangover. Lekin as a third person what I see?
Bahar sey, it seems LGBT group in India is blindly imitating their western counterparts (Like any other community in India.)
What does pride parade will give? I don’t know.
How can society give them right to be obscene that even the straights of the country do not have?
Indian society and religion are quite Homophobic. (While all the great Homosexuals of West converted into one form of Hinduism to other.)
LGBT community has a place of garbage. When the rainbow flag is flown high along with Tiranga on an Indian road, the other person perceives it as if garbage is being thrown on the road. They don’t protest, though, just like they don’t do if actual garbage is thrown.
It is not tolerant society but too lazy to actively protest. Although this trend is changing with active Hindutva (and YAY for that…sometimes.)
What is left when the parade is over? Just like any other function in India, it leaves Kuda-kachra all over. While demanding rights they have totally overlooked the duties.
Not only this, there was no active participation of ‘OUT’ LGBT community in Swach Bharat Abhiyan. They truly missed an opportunity to come out and lead with Societal Duties that is absent in Indian mind.
LGBT Indians are too lazy, hypocrite and messed up with both ‘right and left’ nonsense just like an Indian.
LGBT duties are no different than ordinary duties of Indians just like their rights.

Next time when you come out to protest (In your ridiculously peaceful manner, without any civil disobedience!) remember to wash your feet before it gets anything (or anyone) dirty. 

The biggest transformation

It's been 4 years since I first met her. There has been a lot of changes in her. The biggest change in her is not social or sexual, which people can easily perceive but something much internal.
She met me with a different identity, a different name. She was childish, as 'innocent' as her name was, with 'love seeking' attitude typical of chick flick movie enthusiasts. She, I used to think, dreamt of her Prince Charming on a horse or something.
When I met her, she was a shy person. She used another fake id on facebook to tell me that she liked me. It did not take much time to figure out what was happening. I did not make it a big deal.
For me, she was a shy person, confused and dwelling in dreams. I was not mature enough myself to understand what goes inside a person's heart.
We remain in contact for years before she revealed her secret, which I've already figured out long back. She told me that it was her biggest change. I disagreed.
She wanted to drop out college. I advised against it but she dropped out. She changed her surname from Pandey to Singh for her 'partner', my castist subconscious made me feel anxious. She came out to her parents, to her leftover friends, and to everyone.
But the biggest change in her is a lack of poker faces that she had put on her successively for many years. She is living her true self. She is bold, outspoken and loved by people who actually matter.
Realization of self is considered enlightenment in India. The LGBT people are in much better position than other spiritually, better but still harder.
There can be many transformations by changing physical or social appearance. But the transformation that matters is the refusal to transform for outer conformity with appropriations.
What happened to Siddharth when he sat under that tree, what happened to Maruti Anjaniputra when he stood on the seashore or to Shakar Govindpada when his leg got caught by a crocodile is what happens to people when they come out. An epiphany, a realization ... to say spiritually, enlightenment.
It may be a small step, but it is in the same direction. Enlightenment may be a huge thing to be compared with but the change in person, what transforms him into a sage, a buddha, a jinna or a god is also centered on self. The change is evident unless you are too fixated on outer appearance.
People sang for centuries about the enlightenment of Gautam Siddhartha, Krishna Devikiputra, Lakulisha, Shankar Govindapada. They will sing for decades about our own Sid, Kanaihya, Sambhu and all who have realized their true self and are living as it is.

The Gay Debate

Some say, “Homosexuality is unnatural!” (Do notice the exclamation mark). भाई जान, “हाथ कंगन को आरसी क्या?” Don’t they exist? Our great ऋषि जैमिनी said, “Perception is the best proof of Dharma.”
So मित्रों, before you start refuting logic tell me, what is so natural about airplanes, artificial intelligence, spaceships and beautiful girls.
One of my girlfriends asked me once, “Hey! Do you like my makeup?”
“Yes! You do a good Pikachu” I said.
When Neil Armstrong set his foot on the moon, that incident was as natural as Rakhi Sawant’s face (no offense).
राखी सावंत से याद आया, बाबाजी कहते हैं, “अगर आपके पूर्वज समलैंगिक होते तो क्या आप पैदा होते?” बाबजी और अगर वे सन्यासी होते तो दही मठ कर बच्चे निकालते? Maybe but those dahi-mathi kids always grow up into certain Raksashas, Apsaras, and Kinnaras.
I was watching a Hollywood movie with one of my girlfriends, I could not remember the exact dialogue but it might have gone like this –
“Hey, Sebastian! Where are you going?”
“To the yoga class”
“The yoga class, why? Are you gay?”
Not anymore my stereotypical friend, because Babaji says he can cure gays by yoga! Hurray………. Shushrut couldn’t do it, Patanjali failed, Charka also failed but this manifestation of Dhanwantari can.
Babaji also says, “ये हमारी संस्कृति के खिलाफ है।”
कहने को तो बाबाजी की योग संस्कृति है।. But this बाबाजी की संस्कृति is ‘the last novelty left in India.’ The legacy of our great white masters only flavored for Indian palate. मसाला मार के you see.
I was walking around with one of my girlfriends when she said, “Hey what is this ugly pungent smell?”
“What you call ugly, people are intoxicated by it. Look there it is ठेका देसी शराब।’”
“Well indeed Mr. Philosopher, but can you tell what stinks worse than this and is still more intoxicating?” She asked.
“I’ve no idea”
“Get Idea, its ‘ठेका देसी संस्कृति’”
It is often said, east or west India is the best. But sahib India has not only east and west but also north and south and all the in-betweens. यहाँ तो संस्कृति का जमघट है। वैदिक संस्कृति, अवेदिक संस्कृति, मौर्य, गुप्त, मुग़ल, चौल, अहोम, अंग्रेजी राज, राजस्थानी, पंजाबी, मद्रासी। Southeast Asia is the only sub-continent which has a language dedicated to a queer subculture. The Hijra-Farsi of Hijra people of India. राजस्थान की लोक कथाओ से लेकर पौराणिक और आगमिक मिथकों तक क्या फिलिस्तीन की संस्कृति है?
Someone asked Mamdhatri, “Hey Mady! How is your mother?”
“He is fine,” Mandy said.
“No Mandy, I’m asking about your mother”
“Define Mother.”
“The women who suckled you.”
“I'm suckled by a man Sakra, he is fine.”
“No Mandy, umm how is the woman who gave birth to you?”
“Well I'm born of a man, King Yuyanashwa and he is also doing well”
“No Mady. How is your father’s wife?”
“He married thrice, about whom you ask?”
“The one you call your mother Mandy!”
“I told you! He is fine.”
Marriage is a union of two selves it is said. Abhinavagupta tried producing Manas Putras, he failed so the poor guy has to marry.
Apparently one marries because one has to beget. The gay couple can never beget so they should never marry.
If a gay couple does marry, they can always adopt, can’t they? Dattak putram! Well not as per law. A gay couple cannot adopt but a gay person can adopt as a single father beside the point of his relationship status. So in a certain way, they can still adopt. Each one of them can but not together. There is a reason the LGBT group takes Indian constitution too personally.
बाबासाहब बता तूने ये क्या किया?
Talk about rights, जानवरों के पास भी ज्यादा हकूक है।. Elementary rights you know. But the article 377 is not at all discriminatory. It oppresses as much the ‘straight couples who are into non-missionary positions’ as the gay couples. It is a secular oppression. It is a law of a secular republic, its secularism is an axiom. Isn’t it?
परन्तु प्रजापति की माया देखो। In some way gay marriage is not illegal in India, child marriage is. One has to decide what is more anti-social and immoral and what is more abundant.
One of my girlfriends asked me a totally out of the context question, “who made these morality laws anyway?”
All of a sudden Brahma appears, “I did” He said.
“Brahma Dev Ji, didn’t you lusted after your daughter and married her?”
“Yes...” Brahma confessed, “I made laws after that.”
Notwithstanding, Indian is the only society that has recognized the third gender for ages. The recent amendments in law also recognize their marriages and rights. It took years to protect those who were socially acceptable and religiously divine. How much time would it take for dubiously social people who are held demonic?

On Article 377

Hold My Hands Friend.........

Man Holding Hand

Three is a photo regulated and shared around FB on LGBT pages, it says " Why society prefer Man holding guns than man holding hands." and my Indian friends related with it. `Related' are they blind fold?
Isn't man holing hands a common sight in India,but not in west!
and this is what one foreigner has to say , " Two burly guys saunter down the street, their chest hair exposed, their faces scowling, their muscles bursting out of their one-size-too-small shirts. Everything about their appearance screams ‘I want to kill you with my bare fists and then have sex with lots of women’ – everything, that is, except for the fact that their hands are locked tightly together in an intimate embrace reminiscent of young lovers on the seashore"
In India Male holding man hand is not at all a taboo also unlike in west they are never stigmatized, still western people an their Indian urban ghulams always give creepy theories about why man hold hands in India.
Indian guys are found of holding hands. When western visit they surely put it there blog. It's funny, weird and fascinating according to them. In there culture man do not hold hand until they are romantically involved.
Read this most biased but real post
http://www.stuffindianslike.com/2008/04/170-holding-hands.html

Why the hell Indians hold hand? They ask themselves and many put up this bizarre theory ''because of sexual repression of Indian man, they could not hold hand of girl so hold do best they can'' interesting enough many Indian say that it is in lower society and small cities not in urban and civilized part.  Another theory among Indians themselves (if I dare call them Indian as they are blind folded slave of great west white masters) "they are unaware of stigma" truth may be but this is a screwed up analysis.
Holding hand has nothing to do with sex or sexuality in 'uncivilized' world. It is human nature to hold hand of his friend or relative irrespective of sex/sexuality. Holding hand is about relations. Romantic, bromantic, friends and all not just romance. Holding hand is natural not holding hand is cultural. Naturally man is inclined to hold hand of another person but due to culture one is stigmatized either way.
holding hands are common human behavior nothing to do with sexuality. Establishing this the question like 'why Indian men hold hand' is stupid instead it should be 'why western men do not hold hand?'. Still they and there gandchatu Indian slave have given nonsense theories. 1st theory of sexual repression only seems logical to a fragile impotent mind unable to reproduce his own thoughts. Because even a slight examination of this theory clears that it is based on a screwed up analysis.
To say man hold hands as they can not hold hand of women is evidently wrong. Yes I believe that in traditional Indian society man holding hand of women is despised. But this only strengthen the view that is is 'non holding' of hands which needs speculations not the common natural thing man holding hand or holding hand in general. In India love was a taboo, but if it was only conditional then why boys or child hold hand? Or why married friends hold hand? This theory works on a logic that western society is ideal, natural. Since men holding hand is not common in west or north american they see all straight men hand holding as aberration. Since they do not see man-man intimacy apart from romantic association, they assume that it is common across he world. Well, Men hold hand in many other culture too, in south east Asia,china and in tribal culture where sexual liberalism is high. So this theory is stupid and works on same logic which once dictated man-man sex un natural. The thing is holding hand has nothing to do with sex or sexuality, like child hold hands without any sex/sexuality consideration. Instead not holding hand has deep sex, moral and stigma playing behind.

This theory of sexual repression falls but still the 2nd theory of 'unaware of stigma' by our growling slaves is also a product of blind faith.  Does unaware of stigma means unaware of man to man sex? If so nothing can be far from truth. I hear similar things from fellow gay who say that there parents or forefathers are/were unaware of homosexuality. Are words like gandu, gandwa, gand maru, landura, manahara western? The common form of apology like 'ab gand lega kya' or 'chal ab gand mar le' is found  in west or among  urban civilized Indians? One can in an ask there grandmom about gandu, or dohna or hear about folk lesbo stories. It is not unaware of stigma but absence of it in hand holding. M2m sex is of course taboo but not m2m hand holding because sex is out of context in hand holding in India at least for men.
since both nonsense theory are thrown and it is established that hand holding is human behavior nothing to do with sex and sexuality, the question why men hold hand in India? Is as meaningless as existence of god. Instead the question should be about why men do not hold hand in west? And why men-women not in India? The later's answer is love taboo in India which is slowly vanishing as me can see bf-gf hand in hand and the former's answer is obvious but it is not seen to be lessening, instead it is being imported here in India none other than our 'om namo westernization' group. Although I'm grateful that this new wave of sexual liberty has entered through west. But it also brought up western stereotype and has produced deadly combo of east hypocrisy-west stereotype in urban educated people. I want to hold hand of my friend, boyfriend and brothers and let my sex/sexuality remain out of this as it is today in India. India is changing, sad urban Indian follow anything west as. But is west also ready to change?

                                                                                    Why not hold hands?


Holding hands if so natural then why in west men do not hold hands? and in India why not man-woman hold hands? they say that because men in West are conscious of their sexuality or better to say insecure. the stigma is very much prevalent and no one wants other to think they are gay unless they actually are. This of course has a stereotypical view behind that hand holding is romantic or even erotic. this explains a lot but still something is missing. two girls are seen holding hands and stigma is not strong there.  So something else is also playing here and that is idea of manhood as like possession. Common belief is that gays are not manly or lack muscularity. The men insecurity about his manhood plays vital role here while girls continue to have intimate relationship. two girls hand in hand are not called manly in fact hand holding itself is deemed girly. Hand Holding with assumed association to girls and gay make western men avoid hand holding . The situation in India is different. In India while Men hold hand, Hand holding among man-woman is not liked. This also seems to have something to with romantic assumption of hand holding. But this again is not a complete picture. If in India hand holding was romantic then men hand holding would have been a greater taboo, which it is not. So here an universal myth that 'A man and  a woman can not be friends' is working, also it has been fueled up with the hypocritical eastern mentality which fails to see man-woman relationship apart from blood/sex. In brief, the main reason for not hand holding is it's imagined romantic/ erotic association, and different taboo/dislike of romantic/erotic relationship in different culture is thus reflected in Hand Holding.

The stereotype import

This is really worrying that in modern Indian urban society men holding hands are now a rare sight. It's even despised. The reason for this can be increasing awareness of homosexuality among urban masses, but I do not think so. Girls in India are not unlike for their hand holding. The non-urban area homosexuality is not associated with feminine guys instead with truck drivers and pathans. 'Teri gand mar lunga', 'aa chuppa de', 'aaj chikne ko chodunga', 'chal aaja mar le meri aur age barh', 'ab kya gand maroge?'  like sentences are found among gundas and bhaiyas. Men in Urban India are just Importing western stereotype. That the women still can hold hand while men can not, just like in west proves this. Even mixed with eastern hypocrisy, which helps them to blind fold their thoughts from self evident perceptible truths, they are an interesting hybrid. Once an English entrepreneur (stationed in south east)  said, 'east is very good in copying, good labors but they are unable to produce any original thoughts'. I've no wonder accepting his thoughts as he was seeing our urban, educated and civilized eastern guys. In India, the civil engineers and all just prove his point. BT- brinjal is just another example. We see west developed, so anything in west is seen ideal. We forget to see that development in west is not by Infrastructure or orthodox western culture but it came with, universalism, liberalism and socialism. They are trying there best (the intellectual west) to eliminate the stereotype present in western society, but in educated Indian society there is a tendency to idolize west and import any such cheap thoughts.

The Optimist me

I've a hope, not with our 'om namo westernization' Indians who think nothing in west can go wrong, but from west itself. The society there is growing more secular, socialist and developing a sense of communism and  tolerance. Being in a secular socialist republic nation these are the things I like. Our educated urban thought slave if keep on following their white master will surely come to this too. I just hope that, if eastern hypocrisy do not play then even our urban Indians while following their western ideals who are shedding stereotype, will also shed their's.

Appendix

I also never liked some LGBT actions. They kinda promote many natural human thing as exclusively to gays. On the line of west. Mature activist like kavi, vanita, kidwai, bandhoppadhya do work on Indian context. It is the amateur activist who kind of piss me off. They do what biologist did with bt brinjal and its result will also be similar. It does not take a deep research but a common sense and open mind. Nobody worship Thor in India, so abusing him will not cause blasphemy. So things will work when done in context or either they will in neglected or worst worsening the situation. I somehow feel sexual communalism is inevitable, I try to remain secular.

When Indra Came Out!

So it was! A queer situation! In a even Queerer time. Indra was tensed, confused, and afraid. He was having this strange feeling!

'Why me?' 'Why not Varuna, or his boyfriend?' 'Why not Rudra or Vishnu?'

Thoughts like these were floating in his mind. He had a reputation. A reputation of Warrior, Brave and Mighty.

'How can these strange feelings develop in a man's heart?' thought Indra.King of devas, Lord of men, Indra is invictus, never lost, then? he was loosing himself.

"These feelings, are they proper for a man?" He said while drinking soma. "I've destroyed so many cities which came in our way, Conquered the unconquered. Even the great Vrita couldn't stand in front of me. This day, I couldn't stand on myself!"

Indra honor was at stake, or as he thought so! They call him Thunder, what will they call him now? These feelings for Yuvanashva's New born, which had erupted like lava from the volcano heart of his, If expressed he will surely loose his status! Indra was afraid, for the first time. He never thought that his great fear is not any enemy,but something within.

"Why me, why nature has chosen me! Nature?" Indra saddened, " How can this be natural? This never happened before! Then why these new strange feelings are born in my heart?"

This indeed was a new thing, but once everything was a new-thing! And what happened in the world this time is also unique. Never before a man gave birth to a baby. Now Yuvanashva did it. But why Indra has to participate in this strangeness.

"This surely is a work of Brahmins, they can bind us to do what they want." thought Indra " But why they will do this? Is this a revenge for killing brahmin Vrita? Or they do this for amusement? Oh you brahmins of earth listen to Brihaspati your fellow brahmin and amuse yourself with materials on earth and not us!"

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While Indra was having these thoughts, Agni entered,"what happening there?", Indra asked Agni reported,"Yuvanashva came to senses after delivery!" 

"and?"

"Its a boy as said the royal doctor"

"Is he healthy?" 

"Yes and the same inquired the father. 'He is born of a great person my king' saying this entered royal brahmin' He surely is healthy!' 'But hungry', The doctor said.'And we do not have anything to feed a new born', said brahmin, ' If nothing is arranged, we have to feed him with honey''Had he born of a woman', grieved the doctor ' He surely have got his deserved milk"

Agni was experienced reporter beyond any doubt.

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Listening all this Indra became uneasy.

"No" He shouted, "Nothing matters now" He was furious like Varuna.

"My feeling are genuine, natural, and not imposed!"Indra then wept like Rudra, sobbing he murmured "I've won territories, haven't I Agni! You people respect me and love me as a King, brave and strong. But i'm week Agni! Surely I'm week!"

Agni shouted, "How dare you say that! We believe in you, your are our brave warrior, our great king. Mighty lord! How dare you question our belief!"

Indra smiled, "You say that only because you are unaware of my feelings!"

"What feelings?", inquired Agni for the first time."Leave it", said Indra, " None of it matters now, let us go to Yuvanashva place!"

and so they left

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"Look" Shouted Agni, "They are about to feed boy, stop!"

"who is this?", asked the royal brahmin furiously, "You Agni-deva! How can you come without being ignited (invited)?"

"Sometimes as brahmin myself, I'm self ignited" Answered Agni, further he said "and welcome our lord, Purendra!"

"Welcome lord! what bring you here?" The brahmin doubted.

"Love" replied Indra, turning towards Yuvanashva, lord questioned, " How can you let your child feed like an orphan?"

"I have no choice Lord, I'm not woman enough to produce milk!" excused Yuvanashva. 

"But I'm" Saying this Indra, the epitome of manhood took the child in his hand, and put his fingers into the mouth of the baby, "mama dhati" he said.

The doctor was amazed, "Wonderful Nature, see how baby suckle Indra's hand, No need for water or honey or anything, the lord himself has produced milk! Amazing!"

"Indeed amazing", Said Brahmin, " Just now we have seen King giving birth, and now we see Lord feeding him like mother! Wonderful indeed, even what seemed very rare and strange is, let the men know from now, is surely natural"

Agni said, "I do not get who is more satisfied, the baby or the lord. Look at the face of lord! It is glowing like of Soma."

The Lord Indra was looking at baby as he sucked milk. "This indeed is a great feeling" thought the lord, "I don't know why was i so afraid? This feels good. It doesn't matter what world thinks of me! I'm good the way I'm! The truth is I'm true to myself, self alone is truthful!"

Yuvanashva felt awkward, "Brahmin you called Indra 'like mother', while you used 'father' for me. I gave birth to my baby!"

"So you think mother is sweeter a word than father king?" bahmin asked while Indra came out loud, "Think not this king, I'm surely his mother as I've fed him. You surely is his father as you gave birth to him. But a father too feeds his son and mother too gave birth. I here proclaim that I shall ever be known as the one who suckled his baby, Yuvanashva never be embarrassed by this strange incidences for this birth is divine indeed."

"And hence forward the the baby would be called Mandhatri, Hence his name bear the greatness of the lord, the beneficent and ever loving", said Brahmin.

"Jai ho, Prince Mandhatri whose very birth is devine", hailed doctor, "and jai ho Indra, who like God quenched the thirst of baby. You indeed is Quencher and protector"

"Jai ho, Indra-deva, the lord of the devas, the lord of the men, the brave and mighty, thunder, quencher of thirst, protector and loving and ever beneficent", said the brahmin.

"Jai ho, Indra-deva, the lord of the devas, the lord of the men, the brave and mighty, thunder, quencher of thirst, protector and loving and ever beneficent", hailed everyone except Yuvanashva.

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