Showing posts with label rights. Show all posts
Showing posts with label rights. Show all posts

Friday, 3 March 2017

Is homosexuality objectively and scientifically natural?

"Nature had created sexual organs merely for reproduction and hence naturally they should be used merely for reproduction" I believed that I've grown immune to this sentence, years ago when I started writing about homosexuality I would often get these type of comments from conservatives. I would get agitated easily and ask them to tell, what is so natural about airplane technology and so on (read my earlier ranting here)
Recently I was given the same reason, but the difference was that the person who stated this was pro-LGBT. Needless to say, that person agreed that airplane technology is unnatural but acceptable nonetheless.
The argument put forward was that homosexuality should be accepted because of the free will of individual rather than it being a natural thing. The purpose of sex is the reproduction and homosexual relationship doesn't fulfill this purpose, we have to look into the matter in an objective and scientific way without getting emotional on the issue. Masturbation and contraception are equally unnatural and even though it is unnatural it is accepted as a person is exercising the free will of an individual.
But I have several problems with this stand which I would like to point out here,
Firstly, the argument of homosexuality being unnatural historically is put not to explain the sexual behavior of human under scientific curiosity and there is hardly a question of objectivity but more about that later. That 'Homosexuality is unnatural' was put to dehumanize and demean homosexuals as Deviant or sick people. Using the word 'unnatural' today would still have a negative impact and would not generate acceptance in society.
On the other hand, saying one have free will and one becomes deviant is an ideology that is appropriate for church.
The god does not like homosexuality but gave us free will and due to satanic temptations, some come to like it and hence they are evil is the Christian theology. Homosexuality is a sin, we don't hate sinner who having free will have fallen to Satan's plan but hate the sin which is satanic' this is an age old logic put forward by the conservative.
When the western world became disillusioned with the church, the state and church were separated and so was the people approach to look at things, but it couldn't be said that it cut the chord that instant with the culture, which the church governed and imposed its ideology upon for centuries. They desperately needed a new vocabulary to justify their innate homophobia and invented words like unnatural, Deviant etc. homosexual were not sinner now but diseased and homosexuality was not satanic but sickness. The conservative felt validated by these scientific 'findings"' and quickly adapted to this rational sounding argument.
What was it, if not a mere change of words?
Somehow a person could still accept the homosexual as equal healthy being just because they have free will within this unnatural framework is very surprising, I must congratulate the person, but I doubt many would be able to do the same.
Secondly, In terms of being objective in our approach to discover what is the purpose of sex, I must say this is a futile work. Nature being inanimate, it could not validate any objective reason for purpose of sex which then is given to it by the human being without its consultation subject to human understanding.
Even so within human understanding, an objective approach would want for evidence which would not support the theory that the sex is essentially for reproduction. Throughout history sex has been used for several purposes, expression of love, fulfilling the marital duty, a manipulating tool, an intimidating threat, reproduction, sexual gratification, violence and harassment, spiritual awakening, religious rituals and even as a currency are few examples among many others. Choosing one as the real purpose of sex is oversimplifying the complex nature.
Another way to look into it is to ask whether anything is unnatural at all? The human psyche itself is the product of nature. If natural selection has not eliminated homosexuality should we question the "naturality" of the way human beings are evolved? A better approach to it would be to try to understand how homosexuality has a part to play in human existence which may make us realize it is not the only reproduction that is responsible for our species continuous existence.
A homosexual relationship is real, in terms of existence, I will go back to my original stand if it exists it is natural just because it does not fulfill the expected notion of the purpose of relationship in direct way would not mean it serves no purpose at all. A Scientific approach would mean to look for evidence, and the existence of heterosexual relationship could not discredit the existence of homosexuality. They both exist, they both must have a purpose, in strictly scientific terms of course.
Should homosexual accept the label unnatural even when many negative connotations are involved in it? Do you think there would ever be an objective and scientific response of what is the purpose of sex? Is free will? and individual freedom enough to grant rights to an individual? Let me know what readers responses are to these questions.

Wednesday, 17 August 2016

Why I'm against gay marriage

The best thing about gay sambandham is that it is not recognized marriage in India. Why do people want to invite state in their bedroom with gay marriage thing (even when the sex is punishable)? Samlaingik sambandh has rendered these sanskriti ke thekedar and rights and liberty ke chowkidar redundant. The feminist can not take a side, the conservative were never there. As far as domestic violence is concerned, then no violence in any relationship should be tolerated by the state, be it romantic, friendly or blood.
As far as those homosexual men are concerned, who leave their libertarian stand and took up feminism or religion, they have become an enemy to their own cause, fighting the same enemy.
Asking a government to be deciding factor in individual life even onto your own bed is not saner than inviting religious authority to do the same. It was the feminist who first went hambistar with sarkar. Before that, it was the religion which was a continuously watching pervert. 
A state or religion should not interfere with individual personal space, not in the market, not even in so-called public sector services.
It should be kept at a minimal level, and better than asking for recognition of gay marriage one should ask for sticking down any state sponsored marriages. Give the government minimum job that it can perform better, why make it a priest, maulvi, pundit, vyapari, vyabhichari, and even a dildo.
Note: Sodomy is illegal under Article 377 while such law like Defense of marriage act exists, many Hindu couples can marry under present Hindu marriage act due to some weird loophole please refer Ruth Vanita's Love's Rite.

Tuesday, 5 January 2016

LGBT Duties


LGBT is, of course, denied the basic rights that even the animals enjoy. It is good they have raised their voice against the Victorian hangover. Lekin as a third person what I see?
Bahar sey, it seems LGBT group in India is blindly imitating their western counterparts (Like any other community in India.)
What does pride parade will give? I don’t know.
How can society give them right to be obscene that even the straights of the country do not have?
Indian society and religion are quite Homophobic. (While all the great Homosexuals of West converted into one form of Hinduism to other.)
LGBT community has a place of garbage. When the rainbow flag is flown high along with Tiranga on an Indian road, the other person perceives it as if garbage is being thrown on the road. They don’t protest, though, just like they don’t do if actual garbage is thrown.
It is not tolerant society but too lazy to actively protest. Although this trend is changing with active Hindutva (and YAY for that…sometimes.)
What is left when the parade is over? Just like any other function in India, it leaves Kuda-kachra all over. While demanding rights they have totally overlooked the duties.
Not only this, there was no active participation of ‘OUT’ LGBT community in Swach Bharat Abhiyan. They truly missed an opportunity to come out and lead with Societal Duties that is absent in Indian mind.
LGBT Indians are too lazy, hypocrite and messed up with both ‘right and left’ nonsense just like an Indian.
LGBT duties are no different than ordinary duties of Indians just like their rights.

Next time when you come out to protest (In your ridiculously peaceful manner, without any civil disobedience!) remember to wash your feet before it gets anything (or anyone) dirty. 

Wednesday, 9 December 2015

It Gets Thicker

"Do you have a razor?" No one ever asked me this question. Being folliclly challenged had its own benefits. It did gives me some extra time to waste. Especially the night before a presentation (or an interview or any other occasion where you have to make a good impression) almost all the hostel boys will be scaling there skin off, we few beardless one felt privileged
But its not always sunny in chiknaland (or is it?) We did have some disadvantages. The eternal adolescence is not something one sought. How much it annoys us when people ask, "in which class are you?" Then again, if you are embarrassed with your differently-beard-(less)ness, people as a whole are not comfortable with there beard. Society puts a lot of pressure on them to shave. The nature's gift is disobedience to others. As mentioned, you have to sacrifice your weeks of development for some interview.
Then again if you don't shave, you are not satisfied with your current style. I had met many guys who lived a closet shaven life when there true follicle orientation was a gote.
And when was the last time you saw a traditional moustaches? When are they coming out.
Men's beard is grabbed by society and trimmed the way it is 'appropriate'. Is it not high time when men start taking ownership of there own hairs. The way nature desired?
Today when feminist are waving there bras up high, I think men should also start wiggling there beard, disgusting but hey its our choice. Isn't it?

Sunday, 9 March 2014

Pepper Spray

Pepper Spray

………With becoming a republic; a free and dynamic nation in 1947, India’s parliament was established with a hope of building a country for liberal and democratic values. The parliament witnessed proselytized and thought provoking debates. The house once echoed with the voices of political giants like Pt. Nehru, Maulana Azad, Lohia, and Bajpai. Now our elected members prefer ‘Bhagat Singh’ style of self-expression over normal (read orthodox) way of speaking at the allotted time…(Which Singh was not provided duh…..).. With this new and quite effective way of functioning, Lok Sabha TV may even catch up with Goswami’s TRP.
‘Why would an MLA require pepper spray?’ I think this is not a justified question.
    But of course, our story has nothing to do with any of these things.

Everyone writes a story about small cities, one of the reasons for this being that nobody checks on the background details- the history and geography of those cities mentioned. So the writer could create its fabled version of the city, romanticizing or demonizing his land. (and yes! ‘ye mere vyaktigat vichar hain’).

My story is about a wannabe metro city, Lucknow.  This also is a story about its inherited dance style and of the dancer.

“Was not Wazid Ali Shah a dancer?”
And here is shiraj, a dancer. One of the Kathakas…. arguing with his elder sister who propositioned him to leave his ‘effeminate’ style.
“Was not Wazid Ali Shah a dancer?”, he shouted. “and he also wrote a treatise on dancing!, Kalka-Binda, whose dheory is a pilgrimage to performers around the world and the whole Maharaj lineage Pt. Chitresh Das and all…..”
“And then there are you!” Kulsoom interrupted. “you are not them and they are not you! They are gurus and probably do not have a sister who has to face the entire taunt her friends throw at her.”
“I do not dance for them!”
“That is one of my concern, who do you dance for?”
This had been a troubling question for every dance enthusiast, “Who do they dance for?”. The dancer would be thrown into retrospect. ‘God’, ‘Audience’, ‘Friend’ and ‘Soul’ are but deceiving answers, superfluous indeed. Yet our Shiraj will not stop arguing, he is not going to back up, after all, it is not easy to have a Kathak guru for a boy even in a Gharana city.

Once his friend asked, “Is it really hard being a male Kathak Dancer?”
“Not at all, the only difficulty is to find a master”, he politely answered.
“why is that?”
“The male gurus are a little hesitant to admit a boy.”
“and female gurus?”
“Please do not make me start!”. He grinned

Even though his usual detestation of Feminist women gurus, he was a disciple of Chitrangda. She was a beautiful lady in her early thirties. One should look at her while she dances. Her hair was straight but curled down the waist. She had a wheatish complexion, a near 5 feet 8 inches. Her tatkar was lightening speed. She seemed to manifest Gauri in Lasya and Bhairava in Tanadava. Her face was perfect, light brown eyes that would lighten anything she looks at and a smile to die for.
Shiraj was fond of her, and she was of him.
Now when enough bhumika is made, I shall return to the story.
Shiraj was not in his usual self that day, he was feeling uneasy. Uneasy but also relieved. ‘No school today’, he thought and called on to his sister.
“Didi, I’ll not go to school today”
“why so?”
“No one teaches there!”
“why is it called school then?”
Anyway, he did convince his sister. After watching movies and incessantly changing channels for hours he got bored. So he called Chitrangda, ‘Maybe I can go and see what she does in working hours’
She picked up the phone, “yes Shiraj?”
“May I come there now?”
“right now?”
“yes!”
“yeah, anytime dear!” she responded.
So Shiraj informed her sister and went.
“Hello dear! No school today?”, children are used to this kind of greeting.
“Na, just bunked, what’s with you?”
“Over with morning classes!”
“Tiresome ha?”
“yeah”
So Shiraj and Chitrangda chatted for a while.
“we may practice”
“yeah sure”,  and then they danced.
Starting from gat, then to badi gat. Fierce tatkar on teen tal of table and on pakhawaj. All chakkars encapsulated into a choreography tukda by tukda.

“I’m tired”, Chirangda confessed
“Me too”, said Shiraj. “Should I go now?”, he asked.
“Not at all”, she smiled, “you can rest here”

so Shiraj slouched on the couch while Chitrangda went to make him a Sherbet. She returned with a glass full and gave it to him sitting beside him.
“I’m so tired”, she exhaled.
“so am I”, Shiraj said without much interest.
“My shoulder hurts”
“Maybe because of swift turns”, He hypothesized
“Yes maybe”, She looked at Shiraj with the corner of her eyes. “Will you massage me?”
“hmmm” Shiraj just murmured.

“It hurts a lot”
“okay”, Shiraj agreed.
So Chitrahgda sat with her back towards Shiraj and Shiraj kneeled on couched for better orientation and started pressing her shoulder.
“A little left, a little right, rub near the neck, yes there”, and Shiraj just followed her direction.
“Is it more dark near the neck area?” She asked
“No, why?”, Shiraj enquired
“behind is usually darker”
“It’s okay”
“You are so fair, your hand contrast my shoulder so much”, She sighed. “people do not like dark girls”
“You are not that dark” Shiraj further assures, “In fact some people like me, like darker complexion”
“You like dark girls?”
“Not too dark but a little”
“Like me?”
“yes”
Chitrangda puts her hand over Shiraj’s and started patting. Shiraj was feeling a little uneasy now.
She turned over and looked into his eyes, “you are so beautiful”, she said
“yes I’ve heard people saying that”, Shiraj who was now sweating acknowledged. “I should probably go!”
“Why?”, Chitrangda contested.
She touched her face and started rubbing, “Why are you so afraid?”, Shiraj was trembling, and when Chitrangada with her fingers stroked his lips he broke.
“I’ve to go”, he got up and hasted towards the door.
“What are you afraid of?” Chitrangda shouted. “You haven’t finished your Sherbet!”
Shiraj returned to his home. After calming himself for an hour or so, he went to his sister who was working in the kitchen.
“I’ll not go for Kathak class”
“Enough practice for today? Huh”, His sister asked.
“No I mean I’ll never go for kathak class, and I may need a pepper spray”
There was a confused look on His sister before she smiled and returned to her work.
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